As Tony Robbins has suggested, you should ask yourself the following questions, and answer honestly: What am I happy about in my life now? What am I excited about in my life now? What am I most proud of in my life now? What am I most grateful about in my life now? What am I enjoying most in my life right now? What am I committed to in my life right now? Who do I love? Who loves me?
Think about living in a house and only ever looking out of one window, the one that shows you the shaded part of the world, where it's darker and colder. It's important to look out of all of the windows and to discover that there is sunlight on the other side, and that there is a side that offers brighter light and warmth. See if you can find the other windows inside of yourself, the ones that reveal warmth and brightness and positivity. Find the ways, inside yourself, that you have succeeded in meeting your needs and assess how your needs can be even more effectively satisfied.
Getting your human needs met, and getting in touch with your strengths are both an important part of the coaching process. By getting in touch with our strengths we empower the stronger part of ourselves and create self-confidence and future successes.
Many factors can cause us to become excessively focused on our limitations. Someone who lives alone, for example, may be prone to feelings of solitude and loneliness. It becomes necessary to find ways of fulfilling the need for connection and love. If there have been good relationships in the past, we can take some comfort in our memories of those close relationships. The close relationships we have in the present may fulfill some of our need for connection, but possibly we have to work at making them stronger and more nurturing. Or we may need to find ways of creating new relationships with others in order to fill the need for connection.
I was trained as a psychotherapist in California, and I have had over thirty years of experience in helping people through therapy and coaching. I hold a Ph.D. degree in psychology, and I have dedicated the focus of my work to the practice of Life Coaching.